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Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions

 Author: Pat Harvey and Britt Rathbone  Category: Adolescence, Mental Health, Parenting, Self Help
 About this book:

From Amazon:

The teen years can be daunting for any parent. But if you are the parent of a teen who lashes out or engages in troubling behaviour, you may be unsure of how to respond to your child in a compassionate, constructive way. In this important book, two renowned experts in teen mental health offer you evidence-based skills for dealing with your teen’s out-of-control emotions using proven-effective dialectical behavioural therapy (DBT).

Helping your teen to effectively deal with their feelings now can have a lasting, positive impact on their future. After all, honing skills for emotion regulation will act as a foundation for your teen’s overall mental health. This book will help your teen gain awareness of their emotions and offers tools to help them choose how to respond to these emotions in effective ways.

If you’re at your wit’s end and are looking to end the drama while keeping yourself sane in the process, this book will be your guide. It is a must-read for any parent!

Bayswater Review:

Experiencing distress over gender can lead to intense emotions in our children. Learning how to manage the behaviours that occur as a consequence of these feelings can be one of the hardest things to do as parents. This book can provide a framework for rebalancing the relationship between parent and child, without guilt or blame.

This is a fascinating book with practical, DBT-based approaches to deal with intense emotions and disruptive or challenging behaviours in young people. In the book, DBT is explained as being reliant upon the foundational concept that people need to be accepted in order to change, and both acceptance and change are necessary. The book covers both understanding teens and effective parenting (doing what works to accomplish your goals…not necessarily what might be fair or what you think “should” work…assessing priorities). It is absolutely packed full of practical responses to problem behaviours commonly experienced by teens with intense emotions. The authors provide advice relating to specific situations such as suicidal and self-harming behaviours, disruptive or risky behaviour, anxiety and disordered eating all in an easy to read format.

Each section on how to respond to behaviours discusses how to understand the behaviour, followed by how to respond effectively, and also how to approach issues of safety and limits of privacy. It does not appear patronising, as many parenting books can be, nor try to apportion blame. It simply outlines the strategies that can be implemented, and how to do so effectively. The final section of the book covers self-care for parents and family, partly through tolerating stress and knowing your limits. Of great relevance to many Bayswater parents are the pages covering caring for siblings – understanding their emotions and trying to reduce their sense of responsibility.

A very helpful read indeed.